Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Not PC on BC

Birth Control  is actually something Hubby and I have been talking about a lot. Reese is about 11 weeks old right now- almost 3 months. I am breastfeeding but we all know that you CAN get pregnant while breastfeeding because your body (always?) ovulates before your period. So I will have a month where I can possibly get pregnant before I restart getting my period.

Hubby and I were married in 07 and at first I was on BC. Then I read this article by Randy Alcorn that changed all that. In his article he states that ALL hormonal birth control methods prevent pregnancy in 3 ways: "1.inhibiting ovulation 2.thickening the cervical mucus, thereby making it more difficult for sperm to travel to the egg, and 3.thinning and shriveling the lining of the uterus to the point that it is unable or less able to facilitate the implantation of the newly fertilized egg. The first two mechanisms are contraceptive. The third is abortive."

Wow, could he be right? As a Christian I believe that life begins at conception, at fertilization, the moment the sperm and the egg meet together. After that moment, if nothing interferes, that egg and sperm mix will implant and become a baby. I researched it further and found that right there on my birth control it states that regular use prevents release of an egg (ovulation), makes it difficult for egg and sperm to meet (fertilization) but also for a fertilized egg to attach to the wall of the womb (implantation).

I stopped taking the pill right then and there. That was in Dec '08. From then on I tracked my cycle on my iPhone and Hubby used the ol' pull-n-pray method (TMI?) We finally decided to start TTC in June '10 and I found out I was pregnant with Reese in July '10. Such a blessing that we got pregnant on the first try, I know. After we had her we began to talk to our OBGYN (whom we LOVE and is a christian, too) about our birth control options. We discussed our concerns and my OBGYN prescribed me norethindrone, or the mini-pill. I was assured this progesterone only pill did not prevent implantation but when I got my leaflet with my prescription there it was , right in the uses section "prevents pregnancy by changing the womb and cervical mucus to mak it more difficult for the fertilized egg to attach to the wall of the womb".

I double checked the Randy Alcorn article. I checked webMD. I checked the physicians desk reference. I checked every resource and there it was again and again in black and white. Hubby then said something to me that finalized my decision. He said "If we have any doubts then we should error on the side of not using it. I wouldn't want to get to heaven and know that we could have had a baby but didn't."

So now we are at a crossroads. We certainly don't want to be pregnant again at this point with a 3 month old, we don't want to use hormonal birth control, and we can't use our previous method. Yes, we know the other options, but they're just not as fun. So, hopefully we can just be super careful (risky!) and won't get pregnant until we want to TTC again. If we do get pregnant though, it''ll just be another amazing little blessing like Reese!

12 comments:

  1. I admire your willingness to stand by your convictions. I have wondered about this myself...My two are 17 months apart and life was crazy for a while but its getting easier as they get older and I kinda like having them close.

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  2. ignore me if I'm being too nosy :) but what about condoms? or have you researched a non-hormone based IUD? or those female "condom" things? or a diaphragm? just curious - I currently have an IUD (which I'm hoping to get out next month at my Grand Opening) and I'm not sure what Hubs and I are going to do as far as birth control until I can convince him we're ready for #2 ;) (it's more about convincing him we can AFFORD #2 - not actually convincing him to WANT #2)... maybe condoms or the P&P method like you've mentioned ;) but I suck at remembering to take a pill regularly anyway - so that's not really an option for us either... I didn't know that about the BC pill though... thanks for sharing!

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  3. You should *really* look into The Creighton Model Natural Family Planning. I swear by it. I go to see Dr. Thomas Hilger's who invented it. His office is in Omaha, NE, but there are many doctor's who practice it. As a Christian, I never felt comfortable using birth control (even though it would only be for 'health' reasons).

    NFP is not risky, very reliable, and quite easy. If I get married, I would never want to risk destroying a life through the 'pill,' so NFP is definitely an option. There are also many health risks involving contraception! Just google it. I'm sure you'll find some resources.

    I hope this helped! I was referred here by Jenna from EatLiveRun.

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  4. I love this article. Thanks for sharing. Too many people are undereducated about what the pill (and other forms of birth control) really do. And you're lucky to have such an amazing husband.

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  5. R- those are the "not fun" methods! Also, the non-hormonal copper IUD's do the same thing to the lining of the uterine wall and prevent implantion so that is still a no go for us. I'm not sure, but I think that is actually its main function.

    Ellen- someone else mentioned The Creighton Model Natural Family Planning to me before. I need to check it out. How awesome that you get to see Dr. Hilger! Thanks!

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  6. Ever since we started practicing NFP 2 years ago, it has been one of the best things that ever happened to us and our marriage. I cannot say enough good things about the benefits of NFP, especially to my health. Here is a great source if you are interested: http://www.ccli.org/nfp/

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  7. Try the sponge. It's super easy to use, doesn't take away any of the fun, and non-hormonal. I use it and can't believe more people don't!

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  8. Hello Mommy & Me friend ;)

    We got the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. It's all about charting using your basal body temperature to know exactly when you ovulate. We used it because we WEREN'T getting pregnant right away but it is also used as a form of birth control. Since you know the exact date of ovulation, you just use a condom during those days or abstain. It worked for us for achieving pregnancy. Only took 2 months after 9 months of trying unsuccessfully so I'm sure it works just as well for not getting pregnant. Good luck! Love your blog!
    <3 Connor's Momma

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  9. How could you NOT realize that that is exactly what the pill does? It was specifically created to prevent pregnancy. I don't see how that couldn't be more obvious. Further, the pill is not 100% going to prevent pregnancy. Women can still become pregnant even if they currently take the pill.

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  10. This is interesting. I actually have the copper IUD but now I don't want it after reading what your comment. My midwife explained the copper IUD to me as it kills the sperm before it completely enters. But I guess I need to do better research.

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  11. Found this post from your link on the Influence Net forum...thank you!!
    I am a newlywed and was on the pill at first, but quit after realizing that it can cause abortions. I've told a couple people about it (Christians) who all think it's crazy that I'm not on the pill (we use a natural method now). Thanks for making me feel less crazy!

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  12. Thanks for writing about this. So many couples just don't know. My hubby and I do natural/try-not-to-get-pregnant-and-hope-it-works-but-wonderful-if-it-doesn't family planning. It's awesome. We trusted God and have two wonderful little humans to show for it. :)

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