Tuesday, January 1, 2013

In Which I Throw Myself Under The Blog Bus

I've been grappling with an idea in my mind and in my heart for the last several months. My words are a jumbled mess in my head and are literally screaming at my fingertips to let them out. So, I will, but know that this is about me and my heart and not (necessarily?) about you and yours but maybe it is. Lately, I have been feeling convicted (like woah) about the whole how-much-time-I-put-into-my-family-vs-how-much-time-I-want-to-put-into-my-blog and the whole sponsorship thing.

When the year started I swapped buttons with a bunch of women who's blogs I loved. And I wanted to have my button on their blog too because I really did approve and want to support them. And my blog started to grow.  But then I started looking for just ANY blog who would swap with me. And my blog grew. Better yet, I tried to find blogs who were just giving away ad space. And my blog grew. Then I realized I could make some money blogging! Not enough money to be contributing to our bills or anything, but certainly enough to pay for all my blogging expenses and conferences. So I started having paid ads and emailing with my sponsors and my blog grew. And then a bunch of businesses came out where just anyone could buy an ad off of my blog and I didn't even have to upload it or email them a bunch of times to get the right button/dimensions/whatever and my blog grew.

But somewhere along the way, I started getting this uneasy feeling and it was two fold: 1.) If just anyone could buy an ad off of my blog (or win an ad I had given away) I kinda had no say in what my blog started to stand for. This was especially true when you start to consider the ad space included giveaways and guest posts. Not that that I knowingly did anything I felt was wrong or straight up disagreed with.. it just wasn't always what I would have done. And 2.) and don't kill me bloggy friends What was the point of this paid advertising anyways? Someone pays me and I pay someone else and they pay someone else and on and on and it kinda started to feel pointless. These days it seems pretty much every blog has paid advertising and I know for a fact that not all of us are walking away with a supplemental income. And seriously, how many people read guest posts or click through ads on a side bar anyways?

And then it started to seem like everyone was promoting the right way to blog and the why you should blog and the how you can make money and the you too can be a famous blogger! It just all started to give me a bad taste in my mouth. And in September I honestly thought about being drastic and crazy and just shuttingitalldown. But I decided to just hold out and wait for the Influence Conference and in one of the very first sessions Hayley looked out into a crowd of bloggers looking at the strategy side of things and said "Even if you somehow do become a famous blogger... you're still just a famous blogger." And that was when I decided that I was on the life track of Influence.. not the strategy track. And then Jami  looked into a crowd of us Jesus-loving-bible-thumping-bloggers and talked about idols and posed the question If Paul was here today and started clicking through blog to blog and found yours.. what would he see?... What the blogging world doesn't need is a bunch of people claiming to be believers, running around trying to build their own name. And I sat there convicted and thought Yes! Yes! Yes!

But I made no changes because I had an unrepentant heart. You see, when 2012 began, I had maybe 130 followers. I made it my goal to double that by the end of 2012. I was, and am still, seriously shocked by the idea that I actually octupled it is that a word? but I made this blog a business. And this is the part where I start to look at my heart and inside my head and it's all just gross. Do you see how foolish (and sinful) it is to think that God needed my help? It is true... God has given me influence here on the internet and that's a good thing. But God has given it to me; I didn't make it what it is. And you know what else he's given me?

INFLUENCE IN MY HOME.


And I have sinfully neglected that. I chose a good thing over a better thing. I chose to look at social media instead of being totally and completely present here with Reese. I chose to write blog posts during naptime because people had so graciously spent their hard earned money on an ad space on my blog and I owed them that instead of keeping up with my housewifey duties seriously if y'all could look at what I'm looking at right now you'd think a bomb went off. I chose to spend evenings with my husband looking at the computer instead of spending real quality time with each other. I chose to say I was a business woman and a blogger instead of "just" a wife and stay at home mama.

And I straight up lost my joy... both in my online life and my real life. My blog feels forced sometimes and my husband and baby and home are neglected sometimes and my real life friendships are wearing thin and it's all feeling kind of dumb because I never wanted to be a business woman. And that's an ok thing. I am crazy blessed to be a wife and a stay at home mama and I feel like I have been choosing other really-good-and-not-sinful-for-everyone-but-sinful-for-me things over my first ministry- my family and my home.

But no more, I repent. I repent of the idea that if God wants me to have Influence and speak life into other women (which I love doing) then I am going to have to be sacrificing my home life for it. THIS IS NOT TRUE FOR EVERYONE but I have been talking to God about this a lot and I'm telling y'all this is true for me.

So, for now, I have stopped all advertising. Not because I don't like any of my sponsors but because I don't like what sponsorship was doing to my heart. So, instead, my sidebar is going to be full of women that haven't paid me a dime. See these ladies over here on the right?

They are there because I asked them to be there. I've read their blogs. I've met them in real life. I support their voice and what their doing. Some of them  are crazy blessed in bloggy business and its such a good thing. Some of them are crazy blessed in online shops and that's a good thing. Some of them are just mamas writing on a blog like me and that's a good thing, too.

As for me? I'm not really sure what this will all look like here on the blog. I still love the blog and love the community and love writing. I'm still going to be a part of The Influence Network but because I want to grow Jesus' name here and not my own. Will I lose pageviews? Probably. Will I lose followers? Maybe. Will I lose money? Most definitely  But I need to take a step back and I think that's ok. Because when I step back from this world I'll be stepping back into my real world and it's pretty darn awesome here.

72 comments:

  1. I love this. Thank you so much for writing it and reminding us of what the priorities in life are. God bless you for this decision! Happy New Years!

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  2. Very well said. I have been struggling with a lot of these same thoughts lately. Thanks for saying this out loud! Happy New Year!

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  3. Thank you thank you thank you!! You are brave and wonderful and I am inspired. With the start of 2013 I have been looking at goals Ana passions for my own blog and this was so what I needed to read! Bless you and the new year of blogging. I for one can't wait to see what it holds!

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  4. <3 God will bless you for making the right choice! I love your blog and I promise I wont be going anywhere!

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  5. I hear your heart girl! It's pretty similar to mine... which sounds kinda strange, seeing as I sponsored you last month :) But I get sad when I think about the amount of fuss that goes on in the blog world with sponsors and competitions and trying to be famous. Honestly, I did paid sponsorships for a few blogs this year (okay, like, 3) and it maybe grew my blog some, but really (and this is so the case with yours) I am awed by girls like you. I just love that, by sponsoring, I got to be close(r) to you for that month and we chatted (and again, maybe next week?). I seem to go through waves. I'll do a bazillion sponsor swaps with any who-so's blog, and then I won't do any for ages and just talk about the girls I love. And I stay small. er. It's probably better than way, because as much as I would love to be the next Ann Voskamp, God hasn't called me to a Canadian farm and international stages. (yet. still praying that one into hopeful being). Just as He has called you to home, to your man, to your babies... He's called me to something. :P And I try to figure out exactly what that is and in the meantime? I just leave mammoth essay kind of comments on unsuspecting blogs of girls I wish were my besties, sitting here in Australia, rocking it out to some crazy music and being influential - influencing each others hearts to become more like His.
    {sorry for talking to much.} xo R

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  6. I like this :-) My blog is still very small, and I've hesitated the whole way with paid advertisements. I want people to know that if I endorse something, it's genuine- not because I get 5 cents per click. Thanks for putting words to it for me and helping me to see it from a few new angles as well.

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  7. You are absolutely coming from the best place, Ash. I haven't even swapped ads with anyone for the last four months, let alone deal with paid ads. For as wonderful as the blogging community is, you will only be able to share your best self if you take care of your real life first. Family is everything, and when I say "family," I mean family, faith, and friends. Cheers to you for making this decision and starting 2013 on the right track!

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  8. Beautiful post. Glad to hear you have your priorities straight. I think so many people get too caught up in their blogs that they don't web enjoy them anymore and they also miss out on their amazing home life.

    Anyways, loved this.
    Xoxo
    Kels
    Storiesofkel.blogspot.com

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  9. Well, you won't lose me! I just love reading blogs that stick with bringing glory to God instead of themselves. It's a hard challenge us bloggers face. My blog isn't popular, I don't have any paid ads.. so I don't have that going on. lol. But, I do constantly pray over the content and meaning behind my blog and my heart. It's hard.
    I hope you had a great new years eve! You and your family will be in my prayers tonight :)

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  10. I love this. I just..... Love this post. Thank you :)

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  11. I love this...blogging should feel natural & right tO you... When it doesn't, then you have to switch it up! I love that you are showcasing women & blogs you love! I love sponsoring because I usually connect and discover new blogs, but who knows if it will let forever? Happy new year!

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  12. oh man, YES! you are SO right and speaking truth to my heart, sister. we love you and your voice on the internet. Hugs!

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  13. Happy New Year! You are inspiring. Tonight I am going home and cuddling with my dogs and my hubby without the laptop. Thank you for being so honest.

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  14. Love love love your honesty.....and I start this blogging world---and start I did because I want to share what God is doing in my life and the beauty I find in His everyday things--I thank you. Thank you for putting this out there as a perspective to really take notice on. I don't want it to be about me--i want it to be about HIM to honor HIM and what He is doing and has done.

    Happy New Year to you and prayers for many many blessings in 2013!

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  15. I'm totally with you on this friend...good post.

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  16. So glad you are following God's will for you, even when it isn't popular. I loved reading this whole post, and I have been wondering the same things about side bar ads and sponsorships. Are they really profitable (in money and time)? Enjoy that beautiful family and I'll see you over at Influence :)

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  17. I stopped doing sponsors/advertising on my blog earlier this year. I did lose some followers and page views but I got back to what I really love about blogging. I went back to writing for me and not because other people expected me to. And I loved it. I hope it works out well for you!

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  18. I've done the same thing... no more ads on my blog... at all currently. Just my own stuff. I also stopped linking up to so many parties. I'll still do one every once in a while, but I've stopped stalking 30 parties a week trying to get my post up first. I'm just not worrying about the numbers so much & it's allowed me to have more fun & just post whatever I want & not be on so much of a set schedule. It's working so much better for me! I hope that you're able to figure out what you want to do with this blog & how you want to manage it this year!! I love it & am glad that I found you :)

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  19. I could not have written this better myself! My blog is nowhere near your size but I have struggled with keeping up my blog and real life too! Thank you for posting this!

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  20. I love this Ashley, good for you for saying it. My heart is feeling kind of icky too, grateful for these God-breathed words today. Thank you- thank you- thank you.

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  21. This was a beautiful post that I can relate to and hear truth!
    Thank you for being bold and sharing your heart.. I think it puts words to something I've been fearing lately.
    What a beautiful heart you have and praise Jesus for bringing light into your world.

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  22. ohh Ashley ... amen. Just...amen. Your message made perfect sense to me. My heart has been heavy with some of these same thoughts and questions...definitely helps me process through my messy, scattered thoughts. <3

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  23. I love your heart and courage lady <3

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  24. funny, I just took all our ads off last night. I am a business woman and love it, but I don't think I want the ad model to be what our blog is about. it's really interesting to observe all the phases that bloggers go through, and it is definitely an experimental thing for all of us, and I think that's great!

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  25. I think this post is awesome, thank you for being so honest. Happy new year to you and your family!

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  26. I love this post. I love the honestly and just love it all.

    I don't do sponsors, I don't read sponsor posts, I hate most giveaways and scroll past. My twitter is FULL of people who do nothing but tweet about ad space, giveaways, and those are the bloggers that don't read your posts why bother paying for space when they are too wrapped up in making money and not putting real content or contributing to those who have followed them for ages.

    It should be about networking & making friends not money.

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  27. You have no idea how much I needed this! I'm re-evaluating my blog, which in the world's blogging view, is a boring ol' blog... no sponsors, no ads, no giveaways. Just writing. Just me. I don't know, I guess I felt that doing all of the above was too much work and too overwhelming to figure out how to navigate it all. Advertising didn't really appeal to me... But then a few months ago I got caught up in coveting what others have in the world of blogs and it started making me feel really bad about me and my li'l blog. It got to the point where I, too, considered closing up shop and walking away. But then very recently, I had an epiphany. Feeling that way was/is crazy! God gave me a voice, a talent and love for writing, a passion for dance and fitness and a passion for sharing it with anyone who takes the time to listen/read, and that's enough! If He wants me to make bank, He'll make it happen. If not, I just keep on keepin' on. And that's okay. Not that I need anyone's approval on this, but reading about your own thoughts on this reassures me that I'm not alone. And that it's okay. Thank you again! God bless!

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  28. I love you and I love this entire post and your genuine love and concern behind all of it. I don't even have a family to raise or a husband to spend time with, but i often feel like a slave to my blog. It just doesn't seem right. I want to post when i have something to share, not just when i feel obligated. I say, go you for figuring what is right and best for you.

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  29. Beautiful post. Ashley. It's so hard finding a balance finding a balance in this blog world...so glad that you're re prioritizing and feel so happy with life!

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  30. Hey girl...I really loved hearing your heart here. My blog hasn't grown as yours has, but over the last several months I'd been struggling with making it happen and it became very consuming of my thoughts and very distracting of my ministry at home as well. I've really really battled with what it looks like for ME to do a blog "successfully". I will be praying with you to follow God's heart for our spaces on the internet...that we will follow His lead. Sometimes I just need someone to remind me...its ok to be small...because when I'm ok with being small the Lord has the space to BIG in and through my life.

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  31. I am so proud of you for this! I feel like it's necessary for me to be really honest with you about something and confess as a sister in Christ. I first found yur blog through Sweetness Itself back in October, and I loved it. While roaming through your tabs one day I clicked the sponsor tab (which I'd avaoided because I really didn't know blog had sponsors, none of the ones I'd frequented did). When I saw the whole thing with the high prices, I was immediately turned off and didn't visit your blog again until last week. I guess I should have asked you why you'd chosen to get sponsors and why the cost was so high for ad space. I wanted to know what the money was going towards. But instead, I just allowed my distaste to flourish and turned my back. I sincerely apologize. Is there anything wrong with sponsoring or having sponsors? Not really in itself. But you are right that when you stop making God the focus we have missed the point. I love sponsoring blogs where the money goes towards missions trips or ministry projects, and even if it is supporting a stay-at-home mom's crafting projects for her family (which is her FIRST ministry)...I'm down with that too! :-) Anyway, God bless you and the fam and I have re-followed your blog. Looking forward to more posts in the future.

    xoxo
    Ashley Danielle
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  32. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. For the longest time I wanted to have this huge, popular blog with gorgeous DIY prjects and perfectly organized home, but then I really began to pray about what God wanted for my blog. I made decided that it was an area that I needed to dedicate to him. My blog is my voice, going out for anyone to see, I want what is posted there to be a testimony to God in my life. I may have very few followers (most of which are family), but I can be confident in knowing that IF someone does stumble upon it they will see how God is working in our home and in my life. I pray that God will bless you during this time. I will be here checking out your new posts, however frequent they are :)! Happy New Year!

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  33. Girl you through yourself on top of that bus and started wind surfing! :) You are so right, and it sounds like a lot of others needed to hear this.

    I'm so proud of you, and proud to call you friend!

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  34. I love this! I don't do sponsorships. I have a list of "lovely blogs" on my sidebar of blogs that I love and read all the time. That's it. I chose to promote them on my own simply because I like them. I blog because I want to, not because I feel like I have to. If one person reads or or 1,000...It doesn't matter to me. :)

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  35. You might lose something clicks, but I doubt you'll lose readership. The majority of people really hate sponsored posts and never click on ads on the side, in my opinion. I'd much rather read a blog that has a good message to share with the world! Happy New Year!

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  36. Love your blog! I'm a LEO wife too :) New follower!

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  37. Wow that is so spot on! I've felt that way a lot of times too, like why am I even doing sponsorships? Honestly I don't get the whole paying for sponsorship thing anyway. I'd rather have buttons of blog that I've read and support and would GLADLY send traffic too, instead of building my own agenda. I love your heart for this and your heart to prioritize the things that are important. You DO have influence, thank you for standing up for it! :)

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  38. I believe when we yield to the Lord he increases our time and our talents. Way to go 5ohwifey!

    I am more likely to read blogs without sponsors and tons of ads. You just gained a reader.

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  39. Hey Ashley,
    I'll be honest, your post made me a bit angry at first. Not angry because you were wrong or even at you at all. It made me angry because I had hit the publish button on a post just an hour or so before that set a few sponsorship and business type goals for my blog. Then I read your post and started reevaluating all over again. I realized that I never really prayed about my blogging goals. In fact, yours was the second post like this I read right after publishing that post. And I had finally got passionfruit set up on my new blog. I'm still slightly undecided. =/ But I want to take your warning and act if I'm feeling convicted. So I went and changed that post. And I'm waiting...and praying. I don't know what God has for my blog. I'm praying that He will show me. Man, i hate waiting for answers sometimes. Thanks for speaking truth and for sharing what God is telling you too. That is most important!
    Alesha <3
    P.S. I'm not mad anymore. =) I never stay mad for long. =P

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  40. Thank you for this post! I often think about "What-ifs" and this totally helped me learn more. I hope you had a wonderful New Year, and may 2013 bring blessings, and lots of joy.

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  41. You've given me lots to think on!

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  42. I've never made money on my blog, but I've been thinking about jumping on over the cliff and pushing hard in that direction. But after reading this post I think I'm going to step back, let it ride, keep doing what I've been doing all along - writing to write, writing because I want to share my life, even if no one wants to read it :). Ah, this just blessed me so much. You have no idea. I'm content being a stay at home mama and letting my influence be focused on my home.

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  43. I loved reading this!! I've never had paid sponsors on my blog or anything - but just recently thought that I NEEDED it to build community with other bloggers. Honestly. I thought it was like an unspoken thing that you "had to do" to be connected. So thank you for being gutsy and honest about what God was teaching you through it all. You just gained a new reader from this post! Glad to find your blog!

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  44. I'm a once-in-a-blue-moon blogger that really WANTS to blog about 3 times a week (I can't seem to find balance while caring for a home, a husband, a 2 year old, and 26 week pregnant me!). I read your blog and many others faithfully but rarely comment. I guess I lurk. :) anyway, I really liked this post because it reminded me that even my tiny blog that doesn't do ads or sponsorships (with zero plans to) can be significant. I have 9 GFC followers. I'm stoked when a post has 20 page views. and don't get me started on the excitement a comment can bring.

    I know I have a story to share. God has moved in my life and people need to know about it so they can know HIM! but I've had it stuck in my head that it's not going to matter if I only have a handful of followers. I just think people aren't going to care. but goodness, this really helps remind me that even if one person is encouraged by words I write, God has used me and that is a good thing. and if I'm present with my family beyond that, all is truly well!

    I really want 2013 to be the year I get more serious about writing my story. I've written consistently since I was in 6th grade as a way to just process and grow. but for some reason, I've lost it over the last few years. and I miss it so much! I know there would never be a business behind it for me. I'm totally ok with that. but I'm praying there would be people moved towards Christ because of it. thanks for your honest heart and for sharing your life with so many of us! :)

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  45. Ashley, I'm new to your blog but I have a feeling that I'll be sticking around for a while! Thank you for speaking such honest words from your heart. I started a new blog a year ago and but really -- after work, the only thing I want to do is spend quality time with my son and husband. I do love to write and document our lives but I feel like we get so little family time together as it is. Hoping this clarity eases your mind and heart!

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  46. this is a good post. i honestly hadn't come across it until someone shared it recently. and i couldn't agree more- i gravitate towards bloggers without ads and with real, not 'forced', content. best wishes to you in 2013 and lifting you up in prayers as you embark in this new change/direction. :)

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  47. I love this. I stopped doing sponsorships awhile ago and my comments/growth has definitely slowed way down. But I have to be okay with that. I still have influence on the lovely readers who have stuck by me from the beginning (2006) and if it is enough for God then it is enough for me.

    I'm part of the network too. Good to "meet" you :)

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  48. Beautiful. For the record, I read every.single.blogpost of yours. Mostly because you're real and you love Jesus. And God sometimes stretches my reality a bit when you talk. So thank you. And I love the reality of what this post says. And I love that it's okay to just blog. That it's a safe place for us SAHMs who just need to...tell our story sometimes.

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  49. oh hell yes.
    break all the rules.
    let Jesus grow your blog.
    don't chase after your own name, chase after his.

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  50. I am new to your blog and have loved every post I have read. You are an inspiration and I hope to be able to put such greatness into my own blog in the next year. Thank you so much for sharing in the way you do. I would love to have your button code for my blog becuase I truly believe in what your blog is all about.

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  51. I love your honesty and heart for writing and sharing your story with people. To be honest, the whole ad space and giveaway stuff turned me off a little, but it's more about personal preference than anything against you...I know some people really need that to keep their blog business afloat. But if you don't need it, that's awesome for you, and I think I'll enjoy your blog even more now :) You inspired me a lot when we got together in the fall, and gave me a lot to think about how I can grow my own blog, particularly as I get further into TESOL in the future. But anyway, just because you leave out one part of your blog doesn't make your influence any less great.
    Love ya girl.

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  52. i was going to read the comments first... then decided, just comment. i so so so want to blog... but i read blogs, and i see the advertising, and the link-ups and... well, it just makes me feel so much pressure i can't even start.(not saying in any way that is your fault or anybody elses!) but although, i get "blogging as a business", i don't want it to be (for me) i just want to write... and i want someone to read it (and like it) and tell their friend, who tells their friend, who tells... (well, you get the idea). anywho... all that to say this: i like your blog... i'm telling a friend :)

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  53. I can relate to this. It's so timely though because I just opened up my blog to swapping buttons. But, I have made it clear that I'm only swapping with people I can feel good about supporting. So, really, I read this post as a warning: be careful not to make an idol of my blog and making money; to always put family first.

    http://www.domesticblissdiaries.com

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  54. Oh, I feel like you just took the words out of my mouth! I feel so much more at peace after reading this, knowing that someone else has the same feelings I do. Enjoy your fam! Happy new year!

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  55. Thank you for writing this! I have been feeling so pressured lately to keep up with other bloggers who post 7 or more times a week and to grow my blog like crazy that I lost sight of my main purpose of blogging: to talk about Jesus and what He has been doing in my life. Now that I've read this, my eyes have been opened. I was focusing on the wrong thing and had placed my blog before everything else: God, my family, and even school. It's time to get my priorities straight and thank you for making me realize it! I wish you much happiness as you follow what Jesus has planned for you :)

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  56. This has been such an encouraging post - really! And an educational one. I so appreciate the perspective you bring to the blogging world and your willingness to share exactly how it's speaking to your heart! Thank you!!!

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  57. WOW! Such a well-written post Ashley and I think I can speak for quite a few of us and say that we're all feeling the EXACT same way!

    I stopped sidebar ads back in December because I was feeling overwhelmed with it all. Organizing guest posts, doing social media shout-outs here and there. And then take that times the 10 sponsors on my blog. It amounted to a lot of time and effort that I should have been putting into school work, spending time with my family and friends, and just relaxing!

    So that's exactly what I did and so far I'm so so happy with my decision.

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  58. wow, girl. you are brave and i love it.

    ps. pleasedontstopgirlbehindtheblog :)

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  59. this is fantastic... thank you for speaking the truth in your heart.

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  60. LOVE! I feel so much the same. I am so thankful you are willing to write this and let the truth in your heart be heard! Please continue, and let God lead you! Because with a clear heart willing to serve Him it will be awesome! ;o)

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  61. Ashely I have had similar stirrings in my heart as well, I don't have a huge blog but I have felt somewhat consumed with growing my blog and making my name known over the past few years. I have felt a lot of conviction about making it my idol and not using it the way God would want me too. And like you I have sort of ignored it in the past. I am really using this month to think on my reason for blogging and how I can reshape it into something that God wants to to be. It may mean getting rid of sponsor swaps and paid sponsorships as well. I am so glad you shared this and I pray that God will bless you in your decision to make your family a priority.

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  62. Thank you for this friend! I have struggled too, with MANY aspects of blogging, and indeed it is so confusing. You are admirable and have your priorities straight!!

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  63. i am inspired! thank you, just sponsoring the four blogs that i do now, is hard to leep up with esp being a full time mommy and having a full time job! if i was single/with no kids i would totally blog for my job! lol thank you again for being real and sharing (esp those cute pictures!)

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  64. This is so good to see. Just what I am thinking (except I never got to the "and then my blog grew" part). Even with just 31 followers, it's still tempting to look at stats. I started the blog for me, not followers. I want God to use me but I'll let Him grow it, if He wants. It's tempting to get caught up in the "you need to do this" advice and the "you can earn money [and you really need the money]" trap. But that's really what it is, isn't it? A trap. Something that takes me away from what I started out to do. So, thank you for this post. xo, ab

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  65. okay, disregard my last comment, now I can see why you stopped & I applaud you!!

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  66. I love you for this. Because it is so easy to get all caught up in the sponsorship stuff when what matters is sharing our stories and our words to make much of Jesus...

    Love your heart.

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  67. LOVE. THIS. I understand people wanting to make money from their blog and sponsorship being a good way to do it, but I have lots of respect for people who share the people that touch their heart - because they touch their heart and not because they cut them a check.

    Love your heart.

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  68. You just echoed EXACTLY what I've been feeling. Every woman wants to be heard, but this isn't a popularity contest... or is it? haha Thanks for posting this.

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