Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Our (Maybe?) Schedule




Over the last year, I've felt a little bit like I was just floating through and really living... unintentionally. I really wanted to be intentional in our daily lives and even made a Toddler Schedule for Reese- all with the best intentions. Then I got pregnant and that schedule went right out the window as I was just trying to make it through each day. And after 4 months of feeling just, blah... we got comfortable as a family in our nothingness. We had a loose morning schedule and I would usually make it to 1 weekday event on my own. I was really overboard with my online time in areas that weren't life-giving for me or my family. When Hubby came home we were both terrible about looking at a screen instead of looking at each other. We were kind of living in a haze. We didn't do the things that we loved in our home- being in the word daily, having people over for dinner, deep cleaning although I hate it, it needs to be done, or getting out for a date night.

Please ignore the fact that we have obviously switched gender appropriate lunches. This hungry mama has GOT to eat.

Well, as the new year was winding down and we were setting out our family goals for the new year, we decided we needed to make some changes. And with Kendall on h/er way, they need to be sustainable. We needed to have both structure and margin. We needed to re-find a baby sitter/mother's helper so I could do some weekday things. We decided to cancel our cable after the Super Bowl, obviously to save both money and take away a major distraction for us don't worry, we'll have netflix or something for those home datenights. So, we came up with this plan.


Ok, don't think we are crazy..give me a second to explain myself. This is our MAYBE schedule. It would be awesome if every day looked like this, but we know that's not realistic. We also realize that everything could change when Kendall gets here. But we wanted to give ourselves some structure AND some margin.
  • Reese has out of the house activities every other day at around the same time so she can get her energy out and some socialization with other kids her age. Some weeks we'll hit them all, some weeks we'll ad some playdates, and some weeks we wont be able to do much of any of this. 
  • We are going to try for Tot School on the weekdays. Reese can already count to 10 (swear!) so I'd like to make sure we are developing her mind. 
  • I gave myself realistic and obtainable daily cleaning goals so I dont feel overwhelmed to do it all on one day. If I can knock out two in one day, awesome. If I sleep during Reese's naptime.. so be it.
  • We also gave me one day a week where I could realistically get some intentional work done at the house or just get out with girlfriends or gloriously alone! while making sure Reese is still cared for. 
  • Hubby and I could only realistically do devotions in the evening. So after our daughter's bedtime we are committed to be in the word: whether its together or just side by side. We also will continue to host our small group.
  • Saturday is a free day. Sometimes Hubby has stuff he needs to get done. Sometimes we'll do family activities. Sometimes we'll go on a date. Sometimes we'll have people over. Sometimes we'll stay in our pjs all day. It's just a free day.
  • Sunday we are starting a family meeting. With Hubby's job it is sometimes impossible for him to keep me up to date on his schedule with court and everything and for me to keep him up to date with what's happening in our home. We've also let big events slip our minds until the last minute. So, we've decided that him and I will huddle up once a week and talk about what our week looks like and what we need to do- both work and fun stuff! 

Trust me... we are holding this schedule with open hands and are willing to tweak it if we need or throw it out if we need. But we are hoping that providing structure in our home will help us to live this year, and the years to come, intentionally for Christ.


20 comments:

  1. Did your creative butt make this thing or did you use a template? So cute!

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    1. Haha well I started by making a table in Microsft word and then filled the rest in using pic monkey AKA not that creative! I wish I knew how to make a printable template for people!

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  2. Great idea! I think that Hubs and I need to do this as well :)

    xo Christina
    behindbutterflyeyes.com

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  3. We are right there with you guys on working out a schedule. I have really been thinking about how God calls us to be good stewads of what he has given us and time is one of those blessings that I haven't been so good with. I definitely do not have a type A personality, so sticking to a schedule isn't natural for me, but I am working hard at improving. Good luck with your new schedule!

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  4. Ashley, first off, you are looking fabulous :)
    And then - I love how, if you identify a 'problem' you always doing something about it! It's encouraging to see you taking action, and not just complaining about life being busy and unorganised. I appreciate that and it inspires me!
    xo Rachael
    P.S. Still want to catch up sometime? Your Friday arvo/evening and my Saturday morning works well :)

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  5. Good luck in your new schedule! :) It looks great!

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  6. We also cancelled cable. The hubs hates it, but I love the peace it brings. We often just used it as back ground noise.

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  7. This looks great and realistic! Love that you've left some wiggle room and know it's ok to stray from the schedule if need be. I'm inspired! I wish I knew how to make such a cute chart! I love it! I'm stealing the family meeting idea! I've got a toddler, a traveling husband, and a baby on the way. It's a great idea! Thanks for sharing...you look so great, by the way!

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  8. Love it. We have a (maybe?) schedule, but i should write it down to be more intentional about things...cuz we hardly EVER get to the library...Blessings!

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  9. I love this! My husband is in law enforcement and often forgets to tell me about his court dates until the morning of! I am going to suggest your family meeting idea!

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  10. I love this idea of trying to be more intentional with your time. I think you've just motivated me to do the same! I love too the freedom to bend when needed and of course a free day! Hope it starts off well for you!

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  11. Looks like a perfect schedule to me. Isn't it relieving just to see it laid out. I feel like that. I feel so much more oriented and focused when I can see it laid out.

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  12. I love it!! Man, we had been on such a good schedule before Eli arrived and now it's gone crazy. Plus throw in moving and unpacking. I feel like we won't ever get back to normal around here! I like that this is tentative and flexible. I need to keep that in mind because I'm and all or nothing person.

    And I would really like to get a mother's helper. What age do you recommend for that?

    Oh, and no cable?? So wonderful!! We haven't ever had cable our entire 9 years of marriage. But while living with my parents we had a tv in our room (horrible) and a million channels. We all watched entirely too much television. I'm so thankful to be back to 5 channels (with the help of rabbit ears ;)

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    1. I sometimes leave our mother's helper alone with 5ohBig (like to run an errand) so I only do college and up... but I say its whatever you're comfortable with!

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  13. I LOVE this schedule thing! Did you create this in Excel? Would you be willing to share your template? :)

    Also? You are way too adorable pregnant. It's not fair to anyone else. ;)

    xoxo,
    Gayle | Grace for Gayle

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  14. Ash, I think this is awesome. I love the way you are approaching this - with hope to grow as a family, and also with so much grace. I read somewhere recently that (good, healthy) organization can enable you to be a more present, "better", more joyful mom/wife/friend, etc. You've inspired me to seek a little more structure and a little more margin, in an intentional way!

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  15. What are "gender appropriate" lunches?

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    1. haha girl- eat what you want no matter who you are! I meant the fact that he ordered a salad and I had a huge burger... I was just joking around ;-)

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  16. I'm trying to make 2013 my organized year too, I love that we have the same mind set, I don't think you can create a schedule and force yourself to stick to it. Baby steps :) ps you're glowing!

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  17. Hey lady,
    I met you at influence and was just checking in on your oh-so-cute bump! I love hearing all about baby number two. We found out ours is a girl as well! Hope you are doing great.
    ~Kristin

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